I am a people person. I have a large family and many friends. I was also married for 21 years; now I am not. Why am I telling you this? Because people come and go in our lives and it has nothing to do with us! When I hold on to that phrase, coined by my wise life coach, I am able to have a healthy perspective on the pecking order of people in my life.
As a teenager I always had a best friend. It was always me and Piper, me and Debbie, or me and Jennifer. Then one day it changed. I no longer had my best friend. In fact, we didn’t even speak any more. Was it something I said or did?
Have you even been on a date that went really well and then you never heard from him again? Was it something you said or did?
It is a refreshing idea to me to understand that other people’s actions have nothing to do with me. When I am able to accept that the other person has changed, I am free to learn from the situation and then move forward without worry and obsession that I was somehow to blame.
Remember that people come and go, and of all the people in your life, you are the one who is there to stay. You are the one who can choose to love yourself, choose to respect yourself, & promise with all your heart & soul that you will never leave you!
Here are some things to think about…
“DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY! Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
The Second Agreement from The Four Agreements
Don Miguel Ruiz
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
~ author unknown
So, what do you think? Have you ever had a time when someone else said or did something that you took the blame for? How does this new idea, that it has nothing to do with you, strike you? Please leave your comments below!